This morning called for errands in town. Warm cinnamon buns from the last farmerâ€™s market of the season, and people watching in the rain. Returning home for a much needed two hour nap among soft white flannel sheets (with the cat at my feet) and then an afternoon cleaning in that wholesome, down to the nooks and crannies kind of way that is utterly satisfying. Tomorrow weâ€™re having a shindig with several dozen people. All good friends and neighbors. Cider, pumpkin carving, a rip-roaring bonfire. And though I canâ€™t wait to have everyone in one spot, Iâ€™m way out of my comfort zone.
Throwing parties isnâ€™t something Iâ€™m good at yet. Iâ€™d like to be. Iâ€™d like to be better at social things in generalâ€”and it was a resolution of mine this year to push myself in this direction. Being the Aquarius that I am, Iâ€™d prefer to be holed up somewhere creating, or with a few friends huddled over steaming lattes in a bohemian cafe. I donâ€™t do new social situations with easeâ€”or, more honestly, I donâ€™t do anticipating them well. Once Iâ€™m actually in the midst of it all, Iâ€™m generally fine. I fly by the seat of my pants and hope everyoneâ€™s having a good time. But the residue of the ahead-of-time angst makes me nervy for the first twenty minutes or so of any new circumstance.
I look back on my quiet, almost cloistered home life as a child, and find my anxiety coiled there. We rarely had guests. My parents never â€œentertained.â€ Hence I really only have the random collection of fall-back experiences from my late teens and early twenties, and mostly those sucked. Red plastic cups of cheep beer, etc. But Iâ€™ve always craved more. I love people, and I love good food, and I love these in combination. Like a chapter out of an Isabelle Illende novel, I want my house to be full of the vivacious, bubbly, cacophony of voices and laughter. I want this to be the memory Bean has. Friends, always welcome. Dinner parties. Gatherings. Ruckus chatter under starlight, as people gather around a fire.